Wednesday, April 20, 2016

Too Nice?

I've run into something in the last few years on occasion that makes me feel like maybe I might be a horrible person.  Have you ever met someone who seems...too nice? inherently don't trust them because no one is THAT nice?

I work with a guy who makes me feel that way.  He's so agreeable and nice, shares his food, thinks of his coworkers and surprises them with things, compliments them, etc.  He really is, on the surface, a nice guy.  But I don't trust him.  Like, at all.

This weekend there was an issue at work, and he was really hurt.  Not physically.  Emotionally.  He says he was told something, and that something, I KNOW FOR A FACT, isn't true.  So someone in a circle of management and coworkers is a liar.  They lied about a situation that occurred.  Knowingly.  And the only person who could have benefited from that lie was the nice guy.  So...I'm led to believe that he's feeding many people a line of bullshit so long that no one can untangle it.

But he's so NICE!

And he's not the only one who has elicited that response in me.  People who are genuinely sweet and kind and caring, I assume, must have something hidden in their lives.  We used to have a customer when I worked at a bank in town who was all smiles and concern about how we were doing and what was going on in our lives.  Her daughter was super nice and polite.  Her husband was just great.  And everything about her was damn near perfect.  We all just assumed she was a murderer.  Because who can be THAT NICE all the time?!

Why do we do this?  Why can't I just accept the fact that some people are nice?

It just seems, sometimes, that people who do favors and pay compliments are covering for something, like a perfume trying to mask a particularly pungent odor.  You know it's there, but the fog of niceness is so thick that you just can't make it out.

I dunno.  My gut often tells me to be suspicious of things that are too good to be true.  I trust my gut.  Intuition is a powerful tool that I have learned to develop over the years from reading Tarot cards and reading customer service situations.  If it seems like someone is trying to screw you, they probably are.



Cheeky American said...

Maya Angelou said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." Trusting your gut is so important, and this situation seems to confirm what your gut has been telling you. I know of NO ONE who is absolutely sweet 100% of the time. Every person is complex, and if someone goes to so much trouble to have only one public persona, what are they hiding? That also takes a ton of work, and who would go to that much trouble without a very good reason? I had a friend who was the most loving person I've ever known, studied A Course in Miracles, my favorite person in the world. One day a bunch of us gals are sitting around drinking coffee and she says, "Do you know how everywhere you go, there is that one bitch you can't stand?" I almost fell off my chair!! But she was a real person, with a complex inner life, and not just a sweet face to the world. Trust your gut...

Viewtiful_Justin said...

Amen and amen.